Women's Self-Defense Tips: Away From The Home

- Avoid walking alone or, at least, walk in areas which are surrounded by other people.
- Avoid walking through parks or other "shortcut" paths and driving through backstreets or alleys.
- If you are approached by a vehicle while walking, turn and walk in the opposite direction.
- Do not get close to a vehicle if being asked for directions.
- Whether you are approaching your car or your home on foot, have the key ready to open the door and not sifting through your purse for it.
- Keep your car doors locked while driving.
- Keep enough gas in your car to complete your journey and then some.
- Keep your house keys with you when leaving your car keys at the shop for repairs.
- If you do much driving, in particular, on highways, keep a cellular phone with you.
- Check under the car and in the back seat, especially when the car has been sitting in a quiet or darkened area.

Women's Self-Defense Tips: In The Home

- Install deadbolt locks and viewers on each door.
- Never indicate to strangers (on the phone or at the door) that you are alone.
- Unexpected repairmen should not be allowed to enter unless proper ID is shown and a phone call is made to the business to confirm his presence.
- Keep a flashlight in your house and in good working order.
- If you feel you are being followed to your home, go to the nearest police or fire station.
- Remember, many of those regular household items can be used as weapons if passive resistance (eg. talking your way out of a situation) doesn't work. Kitchen utensils, sprays, decorative items are just some examples.
- If you are moving into a new home, change the locks automatically.
- If you live alone, use only your first initial in the phone listing, apartment indexes, and mailboxes.

Tips from a Rapist - A Must Read

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets. Keep your hair hidden under your coat or shirt.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold out here or we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh --a woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands. The guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.